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When Goodbyes are Said

While we are saying goodbye to yet another month in 2018, we are also closing out the month that is dedicated to mental health awareness.For me, however, every month is mental health month...actually every day.As we say goodbye to May, I realize that I am all too familiar with goodbyes in my life.I have to admit that I not really pleased or comfortable saying farewell.There is something built in me that would love to fix or repair every broken or dysfunctional relationship.Sadly, there are many folks with whom you just cannot reconcile.And when that happens you must learn the art of self preservation.
Walking away takes great strength, perhaps more strength than staying in what is broken.Silence is a powerful and often unused art form.For in being silent, we actually speak volumes.We are saying we can't or won't tolerate being abused.We are making it known that we have tried every possible angle to restore but when some believe that it's always the other persons fault, ho…

A Song is Born

A couple years ago I sat down at our family dining room table and had a heart to heart with my parents. “I think it would be wise to set a goal,” I murmured. I spoke of common sense and being “smart” while chasing my dreams, and as they listened I felt mature and well-rounded. “This is good. This is what everyone talks about,” I thought. I was being sensible. By the age of thirty, if there hasn’t been significant progress, I will lay down my guitar and my pen and pursue something else. Something sensible. Good. It’s decided. 
  I walked away from that conversation feeling like I had just graduated four long, grueling college years. I was finished. I had made it through the emotions and indecision and I was holding a piece of paper that symbolized the finality of this. I felt like I had done the responsible thing. Everyone speaks so pragmatically when the topic of “dreams” is mentioned. “Of course I believe you’re talented, but what if it doesn’t happen?” 
Now, I’m not going to launch…

Runnin' Down a Dream

Tom Petty inspired us all when he wrote Runnin’ down a dream!  Chasin’ mysteries, while familiar for him, is also a familiar tune for our family. We’ve gone where the wind blew, chased a thousand dreams in hopes of building something great and magical. Often our hopes were dashed and all we built were pipe dreams. Nonetheless, deeply ingrained in our souls, has been the unwavering desire to do the unexpected, to follow the stirrings in our hearts and go where the road less traveled may lead.

Once upon a time, there was a little family of 5, who ran down a dream. We sold everything we owned and traded normal life for one in an RV. Our children watched the dream explode and take on a life of its own. It’s sort of no surprise that those babes of ours are chasing their own dreams.

Two of our daughters are giving their all to find their place in the music world.  And you know this road can be crazy... filled with potholes and setbacks. My oldest daughter is 27, and I know there are days w…

Reset ReThrive

If you know anything about me, you will know that I am a woman of faith. I am sharing a powerful verse of scripture that suddenly interrupted my morning thoughts yesterday. "You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you." (Isaiah 26:3) I grew up in a conservative home and we memorized this verse with all the thee's and thou's.  I spared you those.  LOL! Anyway, it was more like this verse interrupted my morning frustrations and feelings of inadequacy. It is good that this happened because I really need to adjust my thinking.
Here's my problem, and I seem to struggle against falling into this pit more often than I should...some days I love social media, and how you can feel drawn to people...connected and intertwined. But... some days it is an absolute liar!I personally hate when people like a page only to un-follow in a few weeks or days. Why do people do that???Rhetorical questions here!! I mean, seriously, it can mak…

Precious Pearls

As I reflect on my life and my accomplishments, by far the greatest is being a Mother.  My lifelong dreams included motherhood.  Having children is such an honorable responsibility and privilege.  It has truly been my highest joy. I have 3 adult daughters and I can tell you that these ladies are amazing young women.  They are honest, pure, innocent, loyal, loving, giving, talented and wholesome.  Who wouldn't want to have them as daughters?!  Meet Kyrsten (27), Kaitlyn (24) and Kourtney (23).




In honor of Motherhood, I posted a picture of our bass guitar string pearl bracelets. on FB and IG!  I am offering these this week so you can buy something meaningful and special for your mother.  The juxtaposition of sturdy rugged metal with delicate pearls seems fitting for Moms.  We are sturdy and steady, like a rock.  I know I have had to be this.  When my husband faced loss because of mental illness...jobs, friends, etc...I had to be a rock for my family.  I could never quit and so I be…

Every Day Heroes

Why talk about mental health? For so long, our culture has misunderstood illnesses of the brain, like bipolar and depression. Unfortunately when someone who suffers, and who has failed to effectively manage their illness...when they do something terrible, (which isn’t the norm), then the negative beliefs about mental illness are further reinforced. 
I want to yell loudly at culture and say those people do not adequately represent such illnesses! They propagate negative stigma and stereotype messages. Meanwhile, you have folks who go about their daily lives, swallowing a pill to keep them sane, using talk therapy, managing their symptoms, exercising and being serious about effectively regulating their diseases. These folks go unnoticed.  It’s sad because they are just like you and me...only their brain doesn’t work quite the same. And it’s harder for them to put a governor in their emotions, anxiety and depression but it can be done. And it should be done!  How else can we show our so…