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Finding Your Voice

Wow, it has been a while since I wrote out some of my thoughts.  It's been a crazy whirlwind lately.  Sometimes you just have to be quiet till you work your way through the storms. There’s a world out there screaming all sorts of messages at us.  Conform, give in, give up, follow the crowd, etc. Within the swirling tornado of messages, it becomes so difficult to hear your own thoughts or to hear God speak to you. Can you relate at all?

I find myself getting sucked down by the hidden subtle messages and being true to myself becomes a real challenge. It’s so easy to feel you don’t fit in, you're not good enough, you aren’t beautiful enough, you will never be popular, and on and on play the messages of doubt and discouragement. 
I’ve written about this often, and I know the signs. I get quiet. I don’t know what to say. I feel suffocated by the voices within my own head. How do I shut them up?!  In this crazy social media supercharged world, I’m trying to find my voice. I feel my …

Petty On my Friends!

6 years ago, an unexpected blessing came rolling our way and we have never been the same.  Many of you know this story for you have benefited from it, though differently than me.  In the fall of 2012, I was contacted by the Tazzy Animal Rescue Fund.  I was commissioned to create jewelry using strings from the Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers band.  I had no idea how amazing this connection would become.

At the time, the strings were being auctioned off and I was sent small packages of string and from this I created jewelry for each customer.  But as time moved along, I requested the strings all be sent to me so that I could broaden my ability to create.  It has been such a great joy of mine to do this.

Then last fall came, and just as I had finished creating the first batch of 97 pieces for Rock the Dogs auctions, Tom Petty passed away.  It was a sad day and I felt such loss that it surprised me.  I had never seen the Heartbreakers in concert but I certainly felt deeply connected to …

I Am UnBroken

I am unbroken! I don’t always feel that is true but I am nonetheless unbroken. That is good. Though the challenges of mental health...all the loss, all the discrimination, all the misunderstandings...though we felt it pile on us, I remember saying “it will not break me!” I will never let it win. 

I view my life as a mental health lifestyle expert simply because I have refused to be broken and destroyed by all our challenges. And they’ve been many over 30 years. Loss was the biggest! Glen was discriminated against over and over and back then you just took those sucker punches and walked away gasping for air! Not again were words I’d say over and over! And yet it happened again and again. But not just the job loss, there was the loss of opportunity and friendships. Those hurt the worst of all. Yet we remain together and we are unbroken! 
My main objective became providing sanctuary for our little family...creating a cocoon to caress our weary souls.  That’s the reason Home Decor is so imp…

Where Our Dreams are Headed

Late Sunday afternoon, we packed up the tent from yet another art show, emotionally and physically exhausted, wondering if this was all there was for our lives.  Spent from 4 days of heat, both of us felt like we just couldn't do another thing.  We packed up headed for home and spent the next 4 hours defragging and talking about what comes next. Don't get us wrong, we love meeting people at shows but there are many things about this lifestyle that are perhaps not the best for Glen or me, long term anyway.

If you've never done an art show, then you might not know how intense this type of work is.  Neither of us is getting any younger and that doesn't mean we are afraid of hard work.  It just means that the hours that go into a creative business are unbelievable.  Art shows have become exhausting and stressful and so we really NEED to open the door to new ideas of growth and branding.

In truth, both Glen and I have to limit our stress load.  The years of loss has caused …

The ReThrived Home ™ Style Tips

The ReThrived Home™ is the latest branch of what ReThrive Designs has to offer! I am so delighted about sharing this with you. I remember when we discussed renaming our jewelry company so we could include our other design/decor passions. The name was intentional and because thriving was something we had to learn how to do over and over, we settled on the name ReThrive! We are so proud of this name, for it was chosen long before thrive became a frequently used buzz-word. A few days ago, as I was chatting to a GoDaddy representative, he complimented our name. It’s one of a kind and stands out and yes we are on the first page of google, so that matters!

ReThrive is about the patterns or layers of growth in both our lives, homes and in our unique jewelry line. It’s about recycling or reusing and this concept came, not from popularity, but rather because this is how I’ve lived life & decorated for 30 years. The ReThrived Home™ Decor Style features Gracefully Gathered, Carefully Curate…

3 Ways to Survive a Setback

I think we can all relate to facing setbacks. At least I imagine we are not the only couple or family to face them. If you’ve lived very long you know that into each life there are times when everything seems to go in reverse and you are taking two steps back for every three going forward. Though it is progress, it is wearisome.

For the person struggling with anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder or any other mental health illness, setbacks are much more prevalent and expected. There’s a desperate need to learn how to survive the setback and not let it destroy our hope of good things to come. 
Glen and I know setbacks first hand and unfortunately we feel we’ve faced more than our fair share. However, here we are still together and still pushing forward. With every setback, we’ve spent many hours forging plans for surviving the downturn of health, job loss or death of a dream. It takes more courage than I ever hoped to possess to keep pushing ahead, especially when every fiber of your…

The Truth about the Dark

I wrote this blog post largely because I need to address what has happened in recent days related to suicide. I grew up in church and so my worldview is shaped by religious culture. If you can't relate to my view, I understand but I want you to read on anyway. There is always good to be gained.

Within the church world, it saddens me to know there are still large pockets of misunderstanding related to mental illness. And so, whenever I hear it, I feel I must address it. If we contrast the lives of those visited by the deep darkness we call depression, we will find the common threads not rooted in religious belief. It’s most unfortunate that Christian culture often misses the truth related to mental health. Afraid of having no answers, they become desperate to define so as to perhaps quell their own questions. But depression is no respecter of persons or religions. Throughout history we find it has visited the most righteous to the most degenerate; both knew it’s sting. Men of Go…

When Goodbyes are Said

While we are saying goodbye to yet another month in 2018, we are also closing out the month that is dedicated to mental health awareness.For me, however, every month is mental health month...actually every day.As we say goodbye to May, I realize that I am all too familiar with goodbyes in my life.I have to admit that I not really pleased or comfortable saying farewell.There is something built in me that would love to fix or repair every broken or dysfunctional relationship.Sadly, there are many folks with whom you just cannot reconcile.And when that happens you must learn the art of self preservation.
Walking away takes great strength, perhaps more strength than staying in what is broken.Silence is a powerful and often unused art form.For in being silent, we actually speak volumes.We are saying we can't or won't tolerate being abused.We are making it known that we have tried every possible angle to restore but when some believe that it's always the other persons fault, ho…

A Song is Born

A couple years ago I sat down at our family dining room table and had a heart to heart with my parents. “I think it would be wise to set a goal,” I murmured. I spoke of common sense and being “smart” while chasing my dreams, and as they listened I felt mature and well-rounded. “This is good. This is what everyone talks about,” I thought. I was being sensible. By the age of thirty, if there hasn’t been significant progress, I will lay down my guitar and my pen and pursue something else. Something sensible. Good. It’s decided. 
  I walked away from that conversation feeling like I had just graduated four long, grueling college years. I was finished. I had made it through the emotions and indecision and I was holding a piece of paper that symbolized the finality of this. I felt like I had done the responsible thing. Everyone speaks so pragmatically when the topic of “dreams” is mentioned. “Of course I believe you’re talented, but what if it doesn’t happen?” 
Now, I’m not going to launch…

Runnin' Down a Dream

Tom Petty inspired us all when he wrote Runnin’ down a dream!  Chasin’ mysteries, while familiar for him, is also a familiar tune for our family. We’ve gone where the wind blew, chased a thousand dreams in hopes of building something great and magical. Often our hopes were dashed and all we built were pipe dreams. Nonetheless, deeply ingrained in our souls, has been the unwavering desire to do the unexpected, to follow the stirrings in our hearts and go where the road less traveled may lead.

Once upon a time, there was a little family of 5, who ran down a dream. We sold everything we owned and traded normal life for one in an RV. Our children watched the dream explode and take on a life of its own. It’s sort of no surprise that those babes of ours are chasing their own dreams.

Two of our daughters are giving their all to find their place in the music world.  And you know this road can be crazy... filled with potholes and setbacks. My oldest daughter is 27, and I know there are days w…

Reset ReThrive

If you know anything about me, you will know that I am a woman of faith. I am sharing a powerful verse of scripture that suddenly interrupted my morning thoughts yesterday. "You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you." (Isaiah 26:3) I grew up in a conservative home and we memorized this verse with all the thee's and thou's.  I spared you those.  LOL! Anyway, it was more like this verse interrupted my morning frustrations and feelings of inadequacy. It is good that this happened because I really need to adjust my thinking.
Here's my problem, and I seem to struggle against falling into this pit more often than I should...some days I love social media, and how you can feel drawn to people...connected and intertwined. But... some days it is an absolute liar!I personally hate when people like a page only to un-follow in a few weeks or days. Why do people do that???Rhetorical questions here!! I mean, seriously, it can mak…

Precious Pearls

As I reflect on my life and my accomplishments, by far the greatest is being a Mother.  My lifelong dreams included motherhood.  Having children is such an honorable responsibility and privilege.  It has truly been my highest joy. I have 3 adult daughters and I can tell you that these ladies are amazing young women.  They are honest, pure, innocent, loyal, loving, giving, talented and wholesome.  Who wouldn't want to have them as daughters?!  Meet Kyrsten (27), Kaitlyn (24) and Kourtney (23).

In honor of Motherhood, I posted a picture of our bass guitar string pearl bracelets. on FB and IG!  I am offering these this week so you can buy something meaningful and special for your mother.  The juxtaposition of sturdy rugged metal with delicate pearls seems fitting for Moms.  We are sturdy and steady, like a rock.  I know I have had to be this.  When my husband faced loss because of mental, friends, etc...I had to be a rock for my family.  I could never quit and so I be…

Every Day Heroes

Why talk about mental health? For so long, our culture has misunderstood illnesses of the brain, like bipolar and depression. Unfortunately when someone who suffers, and who has failed to effectively manage their illness...when they do something terrible, (which isn’t the norm), then the negative beliefs about mental illness are further reinforced. 
I want to yell loudly at culture and say those people do not adequately represent such illnesses! They propagate negative stigma and stereotype messages. Meanwhile, you have folks who go about their daily lives, swallowing a pill to keep them sane, using talk therapy, managing their symptoms, exercising and being serious about effectively regulating their diseases. These folks go unnoticed.  It’s sad because they are just like you and me...only their brain doesn’t work quite the same. And it’s harder for them to put a governor in their emotions, anxiety and depression but it can be done. And it should be done!  How else can we show our so…

From My View

I’m just one of thousands who loves #diy #farmhousestyle decor. Long before roadside salvage, diy style was so popular, I rescued treasures out of necessity. Right here is a great place to insert a little background to my story.

I’ll do just about anything for a treasure. Way back when...back in the early years of my marriage to Glen, we struggled a lot financially. Before I met him, Glen had just been diagnosed with bipolar disease. When he shared his story with me, it didn’t translate into a challenge. I innocently believed it was of no consequence.

As time moved along, a pattern of job loss emerged, and most often it was not his fault. In almost every situation he was stigmatized and marginalized. Most often the response was dismissal because people felt inconvenienced by his job needs.

With three young daughters, being a Momma who desperately wanted stability and a wanting to create a beautiful home that represented me, my creative juices started flowing! It became my missio…

How Long Will it Last?

How long will what last, you ask?  I've often written about depression and mental health, because it's not uncommon to wonder how long a spell of depression will hang around.  It's a beast.  You can read about how depression feels in another post I wrote. (click here)  But that isn't the purpose of this post.

Instead, I'd like to address a few points of concern from customers.  Every once in a while someone has a concern.  Most of the time the feedback is so amazing that we artists forget that everyone won't always be happy.  While we do our best to please, we know that sometimes everyone won't or can't be satisfied, but we try anyway.  Thankfully the concerns are few and far between.

So, in an effort to address these issues, I thought that perhaps it's necessary to give you some of the details regarding wear-a-bility, materials, etc., in a blog post.  Let's begin with materials discussion.  Throughout the past nine years, we have learned a lot …